TO Dos: HOW TO MOVE ON AFTER A BREAKUP

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Several point in our lives we suffer from the dim feeling of rejection and breakup. Not just an ordinary breakup by just ordinary people but hardly from the ordinary people we value of a great deal. We then pity ourselves, we felt devastated and wrecked, we are crushed, shattered, we are desperate and all. Thenceforth, we suffer on these moments that we are laden and weighed down.

What is the great way to cope up on our dark moments? How to rise after the crooked position we have been? Let me put together a list of to dos on how to move on.

Accept the reality

This might be the most difficult phase to take on, it’s true, and it’s the most useful way to move on too is also true. Accept that the relationship comes to an end and Taylor Swift hollers at you that “You are never ever getting back together!” If you won’t consider that you have arrived to the closing stage then it would be much difficult for you to progress. Take note that truth might hurt but it will always set you free.

Never stalk, never rant, never revenge

There is no more heartrending than to watch over an ex-lover’s profile. Keeping the pair of eyeballs on his/her posts of false hopes won’t help you from healing. Giving a fuss on social media is so epidemic nowadays. No one ever care about those impulsive and hollow posts of frenzy dear! So please don’t add up on a train-length list of combusting toxic people or you end up regretting.There are things you just have to keep for yourself. Plus plotting revenge like a real mastermind is just so wrong. It is so distasteful to consider you would like your ex experience what you’re going through. Nobody is victorious on the game of revenge, it’s immature and pointless.

Construct your own support group

Do not ever go through this in solo. Be aided; don’t be afraid to solicit help. Remind yourself that you fell on a rabbit hole and not a soul will ever know that you’re trap once you let somebody be aware of it. Having your favorite people around you will always be fun and lovely. They are handy to cry on, to yell at, to laugh with or even to puke on!

Don’t make an attempt to be “just friends”

After a breakup, don’t try to befriend your ex, well I’m not saying that you have to be an enemy either. Being friends right away is not the wisest thing to do; there are still things to mend and a calendar to take space. No manual exists that you have to befriend with your ex as soon as possible, you can do that later on. It’s nice to be friend with him/her when you acknowledge a hundred percent that you are better off friends and not because of ounce of sympathy.

Learn from your failed relationship

This time, I assume that you wholeheartedly accept that things didn’t work out on your previous relationship. It’s a cautionary tale that things won’t end up how we want to. This contributes you loads of lessons to reflect and see things clearly. Use this as your instruments on your future relationship to make it healthier. Endings can be amazing beginnings.

Don’t hurry into another relationship

See how it would be very unfair to a person you make as a rebound if you jump on a relationship to channel your feeling of loss and discomfort. You will never mature if you won’t experience breakup. You know when the right time comes to ignite a spark to a new relationship. You have the whole time to think and set goals to help you understand a hale and hearty relationship.

Get rid of couple stuffs

Catching sight of teddy bear, gifts and photographs, listening to your love song, reading those love letters and sweet text messages, and dressing in couple shirts will not teach you how to let go. Letting go of a person and the feeling includes avoiding the things that makes you remind of him/her too. It’s not necessary to throw it all away; you can keep it on a box as a keepsake or return it back. If the feeling is too burdensome and so heavy, burning those things will rub the damaging force away.

Fancy with life again

The nightmare comes to finale! You already forgive yourself and the other party. It’s time to rejuvenate and put all things back on the right places! Do things that will make you happy, it’s all about you now. Dance, sing, read and be happy! Time to set goals and plans for the unforeseeable upcoming.

Be thankful

After all the seem impossible setbacks you gone though, be grateful that you surpass these. There are plentiful of things to be thankful and now is the fitting time to ponder your thankfulness. Show gratitude to a new beginning, the people who lend a hand at you to move ahead and to do better and the Almighty who bless you along the road.

Now and then, Cupid is reckless and inattentive, fires his magical bow, shooting arrows of love to the wrong person. You look as if it’s hopeless to pick up after heartbreak, but the most essential point is to know it is really possible. Life laid you a cup filled of solutions and amusing techniques to manage difficulty. It’s up on your willingness to drink it or leave it and start afresh. 

The pursuit of love begins in our self. We should learn to love our self first no matter what, it is never a self-conceit. You don’t have to beg for love to someone else desperately, first love takes place in our self. One of the best things in our life was always to focus in our own self.